Independence Day

While the 4th of July marks Independence Day in the United States, it has come to be a day that symbolizes independence for me personally. While working for XL's Bermuda office it was a day to relish as it was a day off while the rest of the island worked. For me, it was a day where I could catch up on the things that I had been meaning to do. It also a special day for us, as we signed the papers for Soiree on July 4th and took occupancy.

I remember the excitement we had as we wandered around our little abode - we had boxes everywhere, and lots of unpacking to do - but it became our oasis that summer. Over the years it became our home and along the way we acquired lots of great memories.

Although we no longer live in Soiree, it still holds a special place in our hearts. Especially this last year or so, where we found ourselves living in different countries. It's those memories that has kept the fire going. It's that same oasis that we both find ourselves yearning for when times are rough.

Many ask how we do it .... while there are times when I wonder how as well .... There is an an incredible connection between us that runs deep. It is this connection which provides a sense of security that enables us to respond to this question with a level of comfort. We know that this current arrangement is only temporary - we both know that we'll be back under the same roof (in the same country) soon.

It now appears that the "soon" we referred to is going to be a little longer than we initially anticipated. As things turn out - the job that we hoped would result in a return to Bermuda has not materialized, in it's place is one that is a great opportunity to get a sound training and experience in the UK. So ...the long distance commute will continue for the foreseeable future.

As I ponder my next steps, I know in my heart that I can not continue the job(s) that I did prior to commencing this dance. One of my challenges during this dance has been to consider which one of various hats that I will elect to wear upon my return later this month.

I recognise that I am a woman of many talents and have historically been challenged to stick to just one thing. I have fought this since I was a child and here I am some 40 years later ...still fighting it! I don't like being hemmed or boxed in. I love variety and rising to a challenge, especially new ones. The thought of wearing the same "hat" day in ...day out ... just doesn't appeal to me.

Years ago when I worked in the theatre, I loved improvisation - I also loved embracing a new script, breathing life into the words and performing -however - once it came to life, I was ready to move on. The thought of performing the same role night after night killed it for me.

Having been with the same company for the last 12 years, I feel as if I have had a good run and it is now time for me to move on. The thought of moving on is frightening, especially in today's economy. Remaining for comfort only - just doesn't seem feasible anymore. These last few months have helped me to realise how I had used my job as a crutch for not living life fully.

As I move forward with my life, shedding the excess weight, baggage and "stuff" from yesteryear's, I am re-discovering parts of me that I had forgotten as well as discovering new things. It's been an incredible journey so far and can only imagine what lies ahead. For now, I'm practicing the joy of remaining in the moment, taking each day as it comes.

I came across this quote today while looking at the website of a Master Certified Coach - "Take time to deliberate; but when the time for action arrives, stop thinking and go in. One man with courage makes a majority." -- Andrew Jackson. I thought it timely and quite appropriate for independence day - it truly is time for me to stop thinking ...and to get on with life!

Care to join me?

Lots of love,

Norma